wisdomofsex
What Sex Actually is ??????
Sex should be more fun than such a serious affair as it has been made in the past. It should be like a game, a play: two persons playing with each other’s bodily energies. If they both are happy, it should be nobody else’s concern. They are not harming anybody; they are simply rejoicing in each other’s energy. It is a dance of two energies together. It should not be a concern of the society at all. Unless somebody interferes in somebody else’s life – imposes himself, forces somebody, is violent, violates somebody’s life, then only should society come in. Otherwise there is no problem; it should not be any concern at all.
The future will have a totally different vision of sex. It will be more fun, more joy, more friendship, more a play than a serious affair as it has been in the past. It has destroyed people’s lives, has burdened them so much – unnecessarily! It has created so much jealousy, possessiveness domination, nagging, quarreling, fighting, condemnation – for no reason at all.
Sexuality is a simple, biological phenomenon. It should not be given so much importance. Its only significance is that the energy can be transformed into higher planes; it can become more and more spiritual. And the way to make it more spiritual is to make it a less serious affair.
When I use the word sexuality I don’t just mean genitality. The genitals are only one very, very tiny experience and expression of the sexual. The sexual is a very great thing. By sexual I mean whenever your body is alive, sensuous, throbbing, pulsating – then you are in a sexual state. It may not have anything to do with the genital. For example, when you are dancing you are sexual; a dancer is sexual, the dance energy is sexual energy. It is not genital, you may not be thinking at all about sex, you may have completely forgotten all about sex; in fact, when you forget everything about sex and you are dissolved into any deep participation with your total body, it is sexuality. You may be swimming, or running.
For ten years I used to run eight miles every morning and eight miles every evening – it was a regular thing. And I came to experience many, many things through running. At sixteen miles per day I would have encircled the world seven times in those ten years. After you run the second or third mile, a moment comes when things start flowing and you are no longer in the head, you become your body, you are the body. You start functioning as an alive being – as trees function, as animals function. You become a tiger or a peacock or a wolf. You forget all head. The university is forgotten, the degrees are forgotten, you don’t know a thing. You simply are.
In fact, by and by, after three or four miles, you cannot conceive of yourself as a head. Totality arises. Plato is forgotten, Freud has disappeared, all divisions disappear – because they were on the surface – and deep down your unity starts asserting itself.
Running against the wind, in the early morning when things are fresh and the whole existence is in a new joy, is bathed in a new delight of the new day, and everything is fresh and young – the past has disappeared, everything has come out of deep rest in the night, everything is innocent, primitive – suddenly even the runner disappears. There is only running. There is no body running, there is only running. And by and by you see that a dance arises with the wind, with the sky, with the sun rays coming, with the trees, with the earth. You are dancing. You start feeling the pulse of the universe. That is sexual. Swimming in the river is sexual.
Copulating is not the only sexual thing; anything where your body pulsates totally, with no inhibitions, is sexual. So when I use the word sexual I mean this experience of totality. Genitality is only one of the functions of sexuality. It has become too important because we have forgotten the total function of sexuality. In fact, your so-called mahatmas have made you very, very genital. The whole blame falls on your saints and mahatmas – they are the culprits, the criminals. They have never told you what real sexuality is.
By and by, sexuality has become confined to the genitals; it has become local, it is no longer total. Local genitality is ugly, because at the most it can give you a relief; it can never give you orgasm. Ejaculation is not orgasm. All ejaculations are not orgasmic, and each orgasm is not a peak experience. Ejaculation is genital, orgasm is sexual, and a peak experience is spiritual. When sexuality is confined to the genitals you can have only relief; you simply lose energy, you don’t gain anything. It is simply stupid. It is just like the relief that comes out of a good sneeze, not more than that.
It has no orgasm because your total body does not pulsate. You are not in a dance, you don’t participate with your whole; it is not holy. It is very partial, and the partial can never be orgasmic because orgasm is possible only when the total organism is involved. When you pulsate from your toes to your head, when every fiber of your being pulsates, when all cells of your body dance, when there is a great orchestra inside you, when everything is dancing – then there is orgasm. But every orgasm is not a peak experience, either. When you are pulsating totally inside, it is an orgasm. When your totality participates with the totality of existence, it is a peak experience. And people have decided on ejaculation, they have forgotten orgasm and they have completely forgotten the peak experience. They don’t know what it is.
And because they cannot attain the higher, they are confined to the lower. When you can attain the higher, when you can attain the better, naturally the lower starts disappearing of its own accord. If you understand me... sex will be transformed, but not sexuality. You will become more sexual. As sex disappears you will become more sexual. Where will sex go? It will become your sexuality. You will become more sensuous. You will live with more intensity, more aflame; you will live like a great wave. These tiny waves will disappear. You will become a storm, you will become a great wind that can shake the trees and the mountains. You will be a tide, a flood. Your candle will burn at both ends together, simultaneously.
And in that moment – even if you are allowed to live for only one moment, that’s more than enough – you have the taste of eternity.
Thanks for Reading
kumarsumanabhishek4@gmail.com
Sex should be more fun than such a serious affair as it has been made in the past. It should be like a game, a play: two persons playing with each other’s bodily energies. If they both are happy, it should be nobody else’s concern. They are not harming anybody; they are simply rejoicing in each other’s energy. It is a dance of two energies together. It should not be a concern of the society at all. Unless somebody interferes in somebody else’s life – imposes himself, forces somebody, is violent, violates somebody’s life, then only should society come in. Otherwise there is no problem; it should not be any concern at all.
The future will have a totally different vision of sex. It will be more fun, more joy, more friendship, more a play than a serious affair as it has been in the past. It has destroyed people’s lives, has burdened them so much – unnecessarily! It has created so much jealousy, possessiveness domination, nagging, quarreling, fighting, condemnation – for no reason at all.
Sexuality is a simple, biological phenomenon. It should not be given so much importance. Its only significance is that the energy can be transformed into higher planes; it can become more and more spiritual. And the way to make it more spiritual is to make it a less serious affair.
When I use the word sexuality I don’t just mean genitality. The genitals are only one very, very tiny experience and expression of the sexual. The sexual is a very great thing. By sexual I mean whenever your body is alive, sensuous, throbbing, pulsating – then you are in a sexual state. It may not have anything to do with the genital. For example, when you are dancing you are sexual; a dancer is sexual, the dance energy is sexual energy. It is not genital, you may not be thinking at all about sex, you may have completely forgotten all about sex; in fact, when you forget everything about sex and you are dissolved into any deep participation with your total body, it is sexuality. You may be swimming, or running.
For ten years I used to run eight miles every morning and eight miles every evening – it was a regular thing. And I came to experience many, many things through running. At sixteen miles per day I would have encircled the world seven times in those ten years. After you run the second or third mile, a moment comes when things start flowing and you are no longer in the head, you become your body, you are the body. You start functioning as an alive being – as trees function, as animals function. You become a tiger or a peacock or a wolf. You forget all head. The university is forgotten, the degrees are forgotten, you don’t know a thing. You simply are.
In fact, by and by, after three or four miles, you cannot conceive of yourself as a head. Totality arises. Plato is forgotten, Freud has disappeared, all divisions disappear – because they were on the surface – and deep down your unity starts asserting itself.
Running against the wind, in the early morning when things are fresh and the whole existence is in a new joy, is bathed in a new delight of the new day, and everything is fresh and young – the past has disappeared, everything has come out of deep rest in the night, everything is innocent, primitive – suddenly even the runner disappears. There is only running. There is no body running, there is only running. And by and by you see that a dance arises with the wind, with the sky, with the sun rays coming, with the trees, with the earth. You are dancing. You start feeling the pulse of the universe. That is sexual. Swimming in the river is sexual.
Copulating is not the only sexual thing; anything where your body pulsates totally, with no inhibitions, is sexual. So when I use the word sexual I mean this experience of totality. Genitality is only one of the functions of sexuality. It has become too important because we have forgotten the total function of sexuality. In fact, your so-called mahatmas have made you very, very genital. The whole blame falls on your saints and mahatmas – they are the culprits, the criminals. They have never told you what real sexuality is.
By and by, sexuality has become confined to the genitals; it has become local, it is no longer total. Local genitality is ugly, because at the most it can give you a relief; it can never give you orgasm. Ejaculation is not orgasm. All ejaculations are not orgasmic, and each orgasm is not a peak experience. Ejaculation is genital, orgasm is sexual, and a peak experience is spiritual. When sexuality is confined to the genitals you can have only relief; you simply lose energy, you don’t gain anything. It is simply stupid. It is just like the relief that comes out of a good sneeze, not more than that.
It has no orgasm because your total body does not pulsate. You are not in a dance, you don’t participate with your whole; it is not holy. It is very partial, and the partial can never be orgasmic because orgasm is possible only when the total organism is involved. When you pulsate from your toes to your head, when every fiber of your being pulsates, when all cells of your body dance, when there is a great orchestra inside you, when everything is dancing – then there is orgasm. But every orgasm is not a peak experience, either. When you are pulsating totally inside, it is an orgasm. When your totality participates with the totality of existence, it is a peak experience. And people have decided on ejaculation, they have forgotten orgasm and they have completely forgotten the peak experience. They don’t know what it is.
And because they cannot attain the higher, they are confined to the lower. When you can attain the higher, when you can attain the better, naturally the lower starts disappearing of its own accord. If you understand me... sex will be transformed, but not sexuality. You will become more sexual. As sex disappears you will become more sexual. Where will sex go? It will become your sexuality. You will become more sensuous. You will live with more intensity, more aflame; you will live like a great wave. These tiny waves will disappear. You will become a storm, you will become a great wind that can shake the trees and the mountains. You will be a tide, a flood. Your candle will burn at both ends together, simultaneously.
And in that moment – even if you are allowed to live for only one moment, that’s more than enough – you have the taste of eternity.
Thanks for Reading
kumarsumanabhishek4@gmail.com
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