ego
Everybody is born without an ego. When a child is born, he is simply consciousness: floating, flowing, lucid, innocent, virgin – no ego exists. By and by, the ego is created – by others. The ego is the accumulated effect of others’ opinions about you. Somebody comes, a neighbor, and says, ‘How beautiful a child,’ and looks at the child with a very appreciative look. Now the ego starts functioning. Somebody smiles, somebody does not smile; sometimes the mother is very loving, sometimes she is very angry. And the child is learning that he is not accepted as he is. His being is not accepted unconditionally; there are conditions around. If he cries and weeps and visitors are there in the house, then the mother is very angry. If he cries and weeps and there is no visitor, the mother doesn’t bother. If he does not cry and weep, the mother always awards him with a loving kiss and caress. When the visitors are there, if he can keep quiet and silent, the mother is tremendously happy and awarding. He is learning others’ opinions about himself; he is looking into the mirror of relationship.
You cannot see your face directly. You have to look in a mirror, and in the mirror you can recognize your face. That reflection becomes your idea of your face, and there are a thousand and one mirrors all around you – they all reflect. Somebody loves you, somebody hates you, somebody is indifferent. And then, by and by, the child grows and goes on accumulating the opinions of others. The total essence of the opinions of others is the ego. Then he starts looking at himself the way others look at him. Then he starts looking at himself from the outside – that s what ego is. If people appreciate and applaud, then he thinks that he is perfectly beautiful, accepted. If people don’t applaud and don’t appreciate, but reject, he feels condemned. Then he goes on seeking ways and means to be appreciated, to be assured again and again that he is worthy, that he has a worth, a meaning and significance. Then one becomes afraid to be oneself. One has to fit with the opinion of others.
If you drop the ego, suddenly you become a child again. Now you are not worried about what others think about you, now you don’t pay any attention to what others say about you. You are not concerned, not even a bit. Now you have dropped the mirror. It is pointless – you have your face, why ask the mirror?
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You cannot see your face directly. You have to look in a mirror, and in the mirror you can recognize your face. That reflection becomes your idea of your face, and there are a thousand and one mirrors all around you – they all reflect. Somebody loves you, somebody hates you, somebody is indifferent. And then, by and by, the child grows and goes on accumulating the opinions of others. The total essence of the opinions of others is the ego. Then he starts looking at himself the way others look at him. Then he starts looking at himself from the outside – that s what ego is. If people appreciate and applaud, then he thinks that he is perfectly beautiful, accepted. If people don’t applaud and don’t appreciate, but reject, he feels condemned. Then he goes on seeking ways and means to be appreciated, to be assured again and again that he is worthy, that he has a worth, a meaning and significance. Then one becomes afraid to be oneself. One has to fit with the opinion of others.
If you drop the ego, suddenly you become a child again. Now you are not worried about what others think about you, now you don’t pay any attention to what others say about you. You are not concerned, not even a bit. Now you have dropped the mirror. It is pointless – you have your face, why ask the mirror?
Thanks for Reading
kumarsumanabhishek4@gmail.com
share your stories,challenges with me.
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